Avoiding the parent trap
One of the reasons that my husband and I almost broke up was because we just didn’t spend any time together… kind of an obvious reason right? But when postpartum depression is a factor, it’s hard to be motivated to really spend time together. I mean, I suddenly resented and disliked him, and he was just fed up of constantly being rejected; I think a lot of new parents fall into this postpartum routine and it’s really hard to recognize that there is a problem, much less look for a solution.
Every time that I go on maternity leave, I would start little projects, you know how I have a lot of ideas; one time it was a fashion show, once a crafting business, and I was always developing website, even if just for charity. The problem was that I kept myself busy working, in the basement mostly, which meant I was away from my husband. I didn’t set out to work in the basement, it just happened that way and I didn’t really notice that we were apart most of the time when the kids were in bed.
Now that I am trying to start my own business it’s really important that we establish routines that involve us spending more time together. It helps tremendously that for both of us ‘working’ means a computer, and having the home office now in our spare room upstairs is really helpful because now while we work, we also chat, share ideas, laugh, argue, talk about our day, and of course, discuss blogs! 
About a month ago we started playing squash again, while my mom or sisters baby-sit, and I would highly recommend this to any couple… not the squash necessarily, but doing something semi-competitive together. It has been great fun, for me at least, I think he kinda prefers someone who can play better, although I think he’s secretly enjoying it! I want to make it clear that I believe in ‘date nights’ and all that, but there is something about being active and competitive that makes it fun and really takes away from our role as parents. Not to mention how the break in ‘motherhood’ makes me feel refreshed and happy!
Try it and let me know what you think!
