My new journey

Most people strive to find happiness in life, it’s innate, I think, for each of us to want this sometimes elusive emotion for ourselves, the ones we love, and humanity as a whole, but there are times when I feel like I don’t want too much happiness. I feel like in this life, true happiness may not be attainable, or even if we attain it for a short time, it’s almost always not sustainable.

I feel that in reality what we strive for is peace, or contentment, knowing that though life is not necessarily the way we would like, and though violence, racism and ignorance are so widespread and rampant, and though injustice plagues the world at a level that I don’t think we’ve ever experienced before, we can look to the positive bits in our life, in our world, and feel content.

In Islam there is a saying, “live in peace, or leave in peace”; the mousehunter and I have decided to end our journey together, we’ve chosen to “leave in peace”, but of course, even though we are separated, our kids still remain our priority.

I think at some point, we all learn and are awed by how much our lives do not end up the way we planned but truly by the “Qadr of Allah” (the will of God), our life ends up as it should be.

It’s a humbling experience to be brutally honest with oneself, and though it may thrust us into dark, scary and unknown waters, I believe that each one of us has the strength to remain afloat, to hold on to faith, to the people who support us, who love us, and always find back our peace and contentment.

Thoughts from beyond

what can i say.i hope you will find the peace you are looking for:)

Thoughts from Mezba

This had totally out of the blue! You were the super couple…

well, anyways, as I told mousehunter before, I hope you both find happiness in whatever you continue to do.

Thoughts from Baraka

I’m so sorry honey. My thoughts, love and prayers are with you as you begin your new journey.

May there be beauty, peace, and contentment on the path ahead for you and the children.

With so much love and duas,
Baraka

Thoughts from crunchy

just again to say sorry to the both of you..but yes...life is a journey and we don’t always know what to expect and just always hope to grow and learn from it all.

Thoughts from iMuslim

I just knew what this entry was about as soon as I read the title in my feed reader. {hugs} to my sis! Ameen to Baraka’s dua.

Thoughts from Amber

Oh sweetie, what a beautiful, poignant post. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your children during this difficult time of transition. Peace....

Thoughts from shaz

beyond, thank you - i hope that you find that too.

Mezba - super couple? hmm, i don’t know about that, but as we know.. Allah has his own plans!

Baraka, thank you, you really are an amazing person - i mean that.

crunchy, thank you dear. i really believe that once we keep learning and growing, no experience is totally bad.

iMuslim, thank you, i love hugs!

Amber, thank you, we are doing well. funny thing about my eldest son, he would always ask me “mommy, are you ok?” and now, he’s stopped doing that, so i think we’re on the right track!

Thoughts from Ahmed

Woah, I’m shocked and sadden but I wish you both all the best and inshaAllah you both find happiness.

Thoughts from che of teak furniture

I was in the same situation once and i assure you, you will never be alone.

Thoughts from dahlia

Insh’Allah, I hope you are OK.  It is tough thing to go through, I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, but insh’Allah, everything will work out for you.

Thoughts from shaz

Ahmed - i thought that mousehunter would have told you… thanks for your well wishes.

che, thanks

dahlia, i am ok hon, it’s been a few months since it’s happened, so we’ve gotten into our new routines and stuff already, things are starting to feel like a new “normal” - which is a really good thing!

Thoughts from chio of home decorations

Very well said shaz. True enough our lives do not end up the way we planned them to be. But we can always make the best out of where we are today. May we find peace, happiness and joy in our lives.
I’m glad that you’re ok now. 

Thoughts from Specs

Saw this a bit late. Sorry for the late comment.

Well, i have to say i agree Mezba’s sentiments on this.

InshaAllah you shall find peace and new strength in your decision. InshaAllah.

Much duas,
xoxo
Specs.

Thoughts from Specs

’I agree *with* Mezba’s sentiments...’

sorry, typo!

Thoughts from sf

Shaz, life is full of surprises and there’s always a silver lining somewhere out there. May Allah give you both strength in this new journey.

Thoughts from wayfarer

Sorry to hear this but it sounds like you guys are approaching it from a very mature and islamic way which is rare.  Insh’Allah you will both find the peace and happiness you want.