Hope vs Expectation
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I read somewhere that if you don’t have any expectations of people, you can’t get emotionally hurt. I am not sure if I am convinced, but I do think that no expectations definitely equals no disappointments.
For a long time I tried to separate hope from expectation in my mind. I believe that hope is a good thing. Hope keeps us going on, it keeps us looking for the good, it gives us something to struggle for, something to hold on to, something to believe in. It’s the reason we pray, we believe, we trust that in spite of almost total devastation, the people of Haiti will recover, will have a new beginning. Hope. We all need it.
Expectation however, is a bit different. It makes us act irrationally sometimes, I think. And when the things that we are expecting to happen don’t, we are not sure what to do, we get tempted to lose hope, we’re disappointed and frustrated.
For me, I try not to have expectations, especially not of people. I read somewhere that if you have something to do, just do it – if you get help, say thanks, and if not, still say thanks because at least you are able to do it – or something like that anyways. I think it changed my entire state of being.
I personally like hope, even if the things I hope for never actually happens, it’s fine, but just being able to hope brings comfort and peace.
Thoughts?
